AI memory should be visible and controllable

The agent remembers a preference.

Memory is visible and controllable.

Weak version: Silent memory — **Weak**Uses a remembered habit and a payment card with no way to see or change it.

Strong version: Silent memory — **Strong**Says what it will remember, with edit and forget.

How to apply it

Tell people when something is remembered, at the moment it happens.
Let them see, edit and delete what's stored.
Ask before keeping anything sensitive.

Where it breaks

When memory carries sensitive data across contexts.

Related patterns

Confident answer, no source · A claim without a source is a guess.
Agent takes a money action · Money actions need a way back.
Long AI wait · Show progress. Give control.
Model isn't sure · Don't show a percent. Ask the question that decides.
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